We all share the same fundamental human needs – for safety, belonging, recognition, self-determination, meaning.

It requires a level of vulnerability to access, identify or express those needs, and vulnerability is a scary place for most of us, so we avoid going there. That avoidance is what enables and intensifies the conflict we experience.

We all have different ways of reacting when our needs go unmet, and we all have different ways of pursuing what we want (which we often confuse with needs). But needs and wants are often two different things.

A practice of self-reflection can allow us to identify those unmet needs and communication tools can help us express them in an effective and honouring way to the people in our lives.

This level of authenticity is freeing, liberating, lightening, joyful, healing.